The word “Purpose” can be so daunting. What is my Purpose in life? How do I find my Purpose? As humans we feel like we need to have one defining Purpose that we aspire to, that makes us feel a part of something that we can cling to. When we don’t know what that purpose is, we feel discouraged and confused and question ourselves and our abilities.
I wanted to understand what my Purpose was in this world. It was, partly, to be the best mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend and employee that I could be. But is that life’s purpose? I used to be jealous of those who seemed to “know it all”. Those people – you all know them – who had it figured out at the age of 5 what exactly they wanted to “be” and those who had a singular goal which drove all their actions to fulfill that dream.
I was never like that, and I suspect many of you are not either. Is that so bad? Do we all have to have a singular purpose that drives us, or can we have multiple reasons for getting up in the morning? Therefore, I sought to understand: What does the concept of Purpose really mean?
My answer came from reading many sources, but the most powerful which resonated with me, was in Eckhart Tolle’s book, Excerpt: A New Earth Awakening to your Life’s purpose. He says that, “you should connect activities with your inner, primary purpose, so that a deeper meaning flows into what you do. If you ignore your inner purpose, no matter what you do, even if it looks spiritual, the ego will creep into how you do it, and so the means will corrupt the end”.
When I began thinking about my inner purpose, rather than the outer manifestations of my actions (such as being promoted in the corporate world, or other people’s opinions of me) I became less stressed and less ego driven.
Practically, however, how do you tap into that inner purpose? Tolle goes on to say, “the paradox is that the foundation for greatness is honoring the small things of the present moment instead of pursuing the idea of greatness. The present moment is always small in the sense that it is always simple but concealed within it lies the greatest power. Only when you align yourself with the present moment do you have access to that power.”
When I began to be more fully present, by giving people and circumstances my full attention, I felt more purposeful. “Your entire life journey ultimately consists of the step you are taking at this moment. There is always only this one step, and so give it your fullest attention”, says Tolle. “This doesn’t mean you don’t know where you are going; it just means this step is primary, the destination secondary.”
As Tolle explains, “for some people, there is a sudden or gradual break with their past; their work, living situation, relationships – everything undergoes profound change. It comes through awareness, not through thinking”. As this happened to me – uncanny opportunities showed up in my life. Have you ever experienced chance encounters or unexplained coincidences? These are not chance at all, but space being created in your life for something new to emerge.
With change comes uncertainty, but as Tolle so rightly says, “when you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.”
I have compiled some resources below which can help you to identify and manifest your inner Purpose. We will also be holding workshops and events to dive into this topic further, with a focus on how, as women, our Purpose can evolve even in later life. Take a look, share, and comment on ways you have been able to find your true inner Purpose!